Relationship Blues

This song from Saath Saath has been on my mind for the better part of the week.

Ye Bata De Mujhe Zindagi

Pyaar Ki Raah Ke Humsafar

Kis Tarah Ban Gaye Ajnabee

Ye Bata De Mujhe Zindagi

Phool Kyoon Saare Murjhaa Gaye

Kis Liye Bujh Gayee Chandini

Kal Jo Baahon Mein Thee

Aur Nigaahon Mein Thee

Ab Wo Garmi Kahaan Kho Gayee

Na Wo Andaaz Hai

Na Wo Awaaz Hai

Ab Wo Narmi Kahaan Kho Gayee

Bewafa Tum Nahin

Bewafa Hum Nahin

Phir Wo Jazbaat Kyoon So Gaye

Pyaar Tumko Bhi Hai

Pyaar Humko Bhi Hai

Faasle Phir Ye Kyoon Ho Gaye

Ye Bata De Mujhe Zindagee

Such  profound lyrics. We start missing the people we love. They are right there with us, we see them, we talk to them on a daily basis, but still there is this distance that seems insurmountable. Why does this happen? Is it growing out of love? I don't think so. We still love them. We are so comfortable with them that our interactions with them have become second nature to us. We react without any thought. Then something different or unexpected happens that catches you unawares. You start thinking back, and realise it has been so long that you really gave the relationship any thought. You took them for granted. 

Is it natural? Is that what relations are all about? I hear many couples complaining about the lack of conversations in their marriage. I remember a scene from the movie "Two for the Road", where Audrey Hepburn asks the hero (don't remember who it was), "What kind of people can sit there without a word to say to each other?" and he replies, "Married people!" Though in the context of the movie, it was supposed to reveal the strain in their relationship, I think it is a good observation.  And with a valid explanation to it. Married people do tend to talk less, by talking I don't mean communicating. They don't need words to communicate their feelings. It becomes intuitive after a point of time.

So, what am I rambling about? I guess, what I am trying to say is that people do not grow out of love. Love is still in the air, just the medium of expression changes. Don't worry. As long as you are communicating, sound bytes do not matter!!!!