Two decades of blissful married life deserves a blog of its own.
We met first in the year 1991 at Hyderabad Central University. He claims it was love at first sight. For me it was more of a discovery process (it still is). I knew him as a friend - warm, caring and considerate. Most of his friends, family and acquaintances will vouch for it. Me - a bit selfish, self-centered but overall a good person. I guess he pursued me with relentless effort and finally after an year of friendship we committed to each other. He had been my best friend, confidante and life partner ever since.
We have matured together in this journey, so much so that it is difficult to tell our decisions apart. It is always our decisions, never yours and mine. We have learnt to face consequences of "our" decisions together. There is no blame game. Since we were classmates, our friends are also common. So no question of one ignoring the other's friends. We don't differentiate between our parents, no in-law concept. Our parents, our family. In short, everything in our lives is ours - decisions, parents, assets, etc. etc.. This might come as a shock to the current independent generation but believe me it works. I hardly remember any major fights between us.
We have had our ups and downs in life, but no regrets. Ravi has this tendency not to dwell on the past, nor loose much thought over the future. He lives in the present. And though I am a worrier by nature, it is hard to dwell on such things when your partner refuses to entertain such thoughts and conversations. He has always been there for me, no matter what. He respects me and values my opinions. The feeling being mutual. Our relationship is based on trust, respect and love.
What else can one wish for in life - loving and caring spouse. Well, I will be selfish, I want many more decades of the same blissful life.........touch wood...........
